Oh yeah, I forgot to mention...the music theme was scrapped within a couple days and the Josh theme is in. Which means that this month, I am working on learning/experiencing more of Josh's hobbies and tastes. This includes but is not limited to:
-reading Zorro
-learning the game he plays with his miniatures (lotr based, of course)
-probably learning to play Battlestar Galatica
-watching the Cosby show and Muppet clips
-etc.
You might call it getting in touch with my inner nerd/adventurer. We might even pick up Star Wars from the library.
Anyway, the change due to a lot of news that we received all in the same week and that is causing considerable stress to Josh. Therefore, I'm trying to help him be distracted/relaxed at home in the evenings.
In other news:
-we will be moving late July/early August. Possibly to West Virginia (barely, but still. Yay car registration and new licenses). Where we will go, we're not sure, but we are definitely going to move, and definitely moving out of our current town.
-no scholarships have come through yet - please pray that the necessary funding for grad school comes through. We have two and a half months to come up with the first semester's amount.
-the required course, which Josh was told last year he could transfer in b/c the professor teaches the class both at our alma mater and Josh's grad school, cannot be transferred in. Therefore, he ended up adding a class (only offered in the fall and a pre-req to most of the other classes) to his schedule and will be in class on MTW from 6:30-9:30 next fall, after an eight hour workday and before a 1.5 hour commute home. This will however, hopefully be the last 3-class semester.*
*We are appealing to the professor to convince the registrar to let Josh transfer it in. Pray it goes well...
-in preparation for a move (and to get all our we-hate-making-decisions-but-have-to-do-it energy out), we performed a massive purge and our den is now 1/4 full of stuff we are selling/giving away/throwing out.
And that's all for now! We're both doing well, and actually...now that we've gone through the purge, we're both excited to move (we're ready to move now!). And this is really the first time we've had to make the tough decisions as a married couple, so I feel like it's been a worthwhile growing experience. :)
Saturday, June 11, 2011
Friday, June 10, 2011
A Belated Anniversary Post
On Monday, the day we celebrated our first anniversary, my co-worker returned to work from his honeymoon. He was on the phone when his bride came in to eat lunch with him, so I was chatting with her while she waited.
He got off the phone. He turned. He saw her. He jumped up. "It's soo good to see you!" he gushed, wrapping her in his arms and kissing her. She returned the embrace and then turned to smile apologetically at me. "This is the longest we've been apart since we got married." And then turned back into his arms, thrilled that the four-hour wait was finally over.
I had to smile - and then I was thinking about the year of marriage that Josh and I have shared together. We're not the gushy honeymooners anymore (okay, not as gushy). But part of me expected that to be a sad realization, like we had fallen "out-of-love". Yet it was rather a joyful realization.
We don't have that warm-fuzzy-feeling-everytime-I-see-you feeling as often anymore, but in its place is something a thousand times more precious. We've gained trust.
Not that we didn't trust each other before. But the trust that comes from living and loving together is unique. Special. Intimate. I trust Josh to care for me, to tell me when there's something on his mind, to apologize when something goes wrong and to rebuke me when that something is me. I trust him to take the time to talk through disagreements and to set down the impulse purchase and to cherish me and to do everything he can to provide for me.
Josh trusts me to be a good steward of his provisions, to be honest but supportive, to look at both sides of an issue, and to see things with as objective a perspective as possible. We both trust each other to treat ourselves as the other's possession, and to treat the other as ourselves.
We have disagreements and sometimes one of us (um....me) will try to get out of doing the dishes and there are dirty clothes on the floor. It's all the things that society tells us are those little things that make marriage impossible.
But we trust each other to be married. We trust each other to love and to cherish, to honor and obey, as long as we both shall live.
And that's not the starry newlywed view, where you hope and you trust in their good character. It's the experience that you can only get by knowing another.
And that is what our first year of marriage has been all about.
He got off the phone. He turned. He saw her. He jumped up. "It's soo good to see you!" he gushed, wrapping her in his arms and kissing her. She returned the embrace and then turned to smile apologetically at me. "This is the longest we've been apart since we got married." And then turned back into his arms, thrilled that the four-hour wait was finally over.
I had to smile - and then I was thinking about the year of marriage that Josh and I have shared together. We're not the gushy honeymooners anymore (okay, not as gushy). But part of me expected that to be a sad realization, like we had fallen "out-of-love". Yet it was rather a joyful realization.
We don't have that warm-fuzzy-feeling-everytime-I-see-you feeling as often anymore, but in its place is something a thousand times more precious. We've gained trust.
Not that we didn't trust each other before. But the trust that comes from living and loving together is unique. Special. Intimate. I trust Josh to care for me, to tell me when there's something on his mind, to apologize when something goes wrong and to rebuke me when that something is me. I trust him to take the time to talk through disagreements and to set down the impulse purchase and to cherish me and to do everything he can to provide for me.
Josh trusts me to be a good steward of his provisions, to be honest but supportive, to look at both sides of an issue, and to see things with as objective a perspective as possible. We both trust each other to treat ourselves as the other's possession, and to treat the other as ourselves.
We have disagreements and sometimes one of us (um....me) will try to get out of doing the dishes and there are dirty clothes on the floor. It's all the things that society tells us are those little things that make marriage impossible.
But we trust each other to be married. We trust each other to love and to cherish, to honor and obey, as long as we both shall live.
And that's not the starry newlywed view, where you hope and you trust in their good character. It's the experience that you can only get by knowing another.
And that is what our first year of marriage has been all about.
Wednesday, June 1, 2011
End of the Month
Since my husband is trying to revive his facebook, I figure I should try to post a little more on my blog.
Plus, I finished my full month of running. How was it? Great. I feel better, I worked some steam out on the more stressful days (which helps a little in the marriage department!), and it made me more conscious of what it means to be "healthy".
To be honest, I didn't quite make my goal of exercising every day - but then every other day is a big improvement as well. I did have to stop for a while because I caught a cold, but otherwise, I made great leaps and bounds and was able to meet my goal!
Someone once told me that physical fitness isn't about how far you can go or pushing yourself to the max. It's about staying healthy and keeping in good shape so that if you ever NEED to kick it up a notch, you can. So I intend to keep up the progress I have made by continuing my routine 3 days a week - not necessarily with the goal of getting faster or running longer, but just with the goal of staying fit and healthy.
In other news, so begins a new month! We have a keyboard and a flute sitting in our apartment that rarely get used. So this month is about brushing up on my music! I'm try to alternate the two...with the keyboard, the challenge is reading those left-hand notes. Playing the flute for so many years has my eye automatically trained to read the treble clef, and now I'm terribly at translating to the bass clef. On the flute, my challenge will be finger fumblings, and smooth breath control. Time to work that diaphragm!
And so begins a new month. Newly off from a fabulous Alaskan vacation, DONE with financial audits, and now getting back on top of things at work. I feel like things have definitely taken a turn for the less-hectic!
Plus, I finished my full month of running. How was it? Great. I feel better, I worked some steam out on the more stressful days (which helps a little in the marriage department!), and it made me more conscious of what it means to be "healthy".
To be honest, I didn't quite make my goal of exercising every day - but then every other day is a big improvement as well. I did have to stop for a while because I caught a cold, but otherwise, I made great leaps and bounds and was able to meet my goal!
Someone once told me that physical fitness isn't about how far you can go or pushing yourself to the max. It's about staying healthy and keeping in good shape so that if you ever NEED to kick it up a notch, you can. So I intend to keep up the progress I have made by continuing my routine 3 days a week - not necessarily with the goal of getting faster or running longer, but just with the goal of staying fit and healthy.
In other news, so begins a new month! We have a keyboard and a flute sitting in our apartment that rarely get used. So this month is about brushing up on my music! I'm try to alternate the two...with the keyboard, the challenge is reading those left-hand notes. Playing the flute for so many years has my eye automatically trained to read the treble clef, and now I'm terribly at translating to the bass clef. On the flute, my challenge will be finger fumblings, and smooth breath control. Time to work that diaphragm!
And so begins a new month. Newly off from a fabulous Alaskan vacation, DONE with financial audits, and now getting back on top of things at work. I feel like things have definitely taken a turn for the less-hectic!
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